She has been bullied in 4 different roles. As a founder. As an employee. In sales, marketing, finance. Different companies, different bosses, different teams.
Same pattern. Every single time. After a honeymoon period of 18 months to 2 years, it starts again.
So I asked her: “What is your recipe? What do you do that triggers this, every time?”
At first, she was shocked by the question. Then she thought for a moment. And listed, almost amused:
- I set my boundaries.
- I say NO when it needs to be said.
- I say what I do and do what I say. And I deliver beyond expectations.
- I work hard.
- I help and support people. Genuinely, with no hidden agenda.
- I treat the intern and the CEO with the same respect.
She paused. “Actually I have nothing to prove and everything to give.” And then, quietly: “But apparently, that frightens people. They think I want their job.”
We sat with that for a moment.
Here is the uncomfortable truth: sometimes, being competent, consistent and respectful is exactly what makes you a target. Not because something is wrong with you. But because something is wrong with the place.
The question is not “how do I stop being bullied?”. The question is “what does this pattern tell me about where I belong, and where I don’t?”
Your turn … What did you do when you realised you were the problem, because you were too good at your job?
Sometimes they just don’t deserve you any longer.
Be brave.
Delphine
#TheCourageofBeing