- A boss always on your back, micromanaging every aspect of your work?
- A partner who is talking, choosing, deciding and thinking on your behalf?
- Parents who are pushing you to embrace a certain path to fulfill their own dreams?
- The societal norms, do this not that?
- Dependence of any kind?
Have you ever felt like a puppet on a string, with circumstances and expectations dictating your every move? Measuring very step you take? Weighing each decision in your life against the fear of judgment and failure?
I did, for some time and in several aspects of my life.
I used to be a people pleaser, and to say “YES of course I’ll be there, I’ll do it” with a large smile while all the cells of my body were screaming “NO WAY!!!”. Because I was afraid. Afraid of being rejected, afraid I might disappoint people (no matter who!), Afraid I was not good enough to be my own self and tell my truth. Afraid I might lose my job. Afraid I might fail. Afraid to make any kind of noise.
A very strange sensation to perform in a show scripted by someone else, my movements limited and so predictable. I lost sight of my own self in the process.
It took me several years and a deep long inner journey to cut most of those strings and dance my life to my own rhythm. Identifying what was holding me back, embracing my limiting thoughts and beliefs, making friends with them and moving forward despite them. Expressing my dreams, passions and aspirations unapologetically. Exploring new things. Allowing my instinct to guide my path. Learning to say NO and setting my boundaries. Making choices that align with my core values. Crafting a life that resonates with who I am. And being conscious and vigilant every day to carry on, despite resistance and old traps knocking at the door.
And guess what? The world outside keeps spinning. And my own world spins much smoother.
You have the scissors. May you have the courage to become the director of your own created life, you will use them.
“CUT”!
Be brave.
Delphine
#TheCourageofbeing
Inspired by the song “Puppet on a string” – The Hives.
Pic – DP – Venise – Oct 2023